In this age of reality television and instant celebrity so many people allow themselves to be made to feel inadequate and incapable of having a life of their own.
Do you ever get the feeling you’d like to sit them down (as opposed to grabbing them by the throat and giving them a good shaking) and quietly point out how lucky they actually are?
It is their life, not their parent's; not their children‘s nor their spouse or partner - it is their life. There is no one-size-fits-all life, no one will agree how you live your life 100%, so don't look for their approval. By living your life to please others, you could end up like the dog forever chasing its own tail.
If, as some sort of a sop to your own perceived inadequacy, you put others on a pedestal - don’t. Remember, no one is worry free; people wear masks and can keep their problems well hidden. Stop wishing you were like someone else. You are you -- with your own problems, no different from the thousands of others you meet in your daily life.
How many times have you told yourself you would start on piano lessons or maybe take up photography? We all have an image in our heads of the person we'd like to be, but never really follow through. So be the person you want to be. What are you waiting for - forget what the losers might say and jump in with both feet to a new project.
Now you have your own project you can say “No” more often to things you can't or don't want to do. You don't do yourself, or anyone else, any favours by feeling guilty. Learn from your mistakes, move on with your life with the determination that you will do better. Don't allow your time to be stolen by well-meaning people. Friends will like you for you; not for what you can do for them.
Earn your own self-esteem. Self-esteem can't be bought or borrowed, earn your self-esteem by growing, in any way possible, as a human being taking on a challenge. Think charity or volunteer work or even delving into a new hobby. Mind the company you keep and avoid negative people.
Revenge, anger and jealousy, as hard as they are to let go of, only hold you back.
Negativity is like a virus; it spreads. Who was that said: “…any man who seeks revenge should dig two graves -- one for their target and the other for themselves.” Revenge, anger and jealousy, as hard as they are to let go of, only hold you back.
And of course, take care of yourself by nurturing a healthy body and a healthy mind. MGS460WDS0603MMXI
